Friday, May 23, 2014

How to Overcome your Shyness and Develop your Courage - The Shyness Quiz

How often have you found yourself trembling, heart pounding, legs weak, cheeks on fire, when facing a colleague or your boss, a teacher or a traffic cop, or simply a person of the opposite sex?

Shyness can be paralyzing at any age. It causes bizarre anxieties, nightmares, indigestion and, when the occasion to be strong and affirmative has passed, infinite regrets.

Do you thing you’re beyond hope?

If you do, you’re wrong. Shyness can be treated. You might not be aware that most psychologists who have published works on the subject, were at one time very shy themselves. Who is more likely to be interested in shyness, and write hundreds of pages about it, than a person who is shy!

Those who have never suffered from shyness are incapable of understanding to what point it can ruin our lives and make us unhappy. 

Self assurance, confidence and ease of expression are the main qualities of a magnetic personality. If being shy is forcing you to hide behind a shell, then you’re missing out on many of the beauties of existence. Throw away your shell, and learn to live a full and satisfying life!

What kind of shy person are you?
This is no joke. There are varying degrees and numerous types of shyness.


This test will tell you what category you belong to:

1. You’re invited to a party with thirty other people. You only know one of them:

❑ a) You don’t leave that person’s side the whole evening.
❑ b) You chat with two or three other people, who seem as alone as you are.
❑ c) You move from one group to another, and take advantage of the opportunity to make new acquaintances.

2. You have go to an interview for a new job:

❑ a) You don’t sleep the night before.
❑ b) You have a hard time getting to sleep, convinced that the other candidates have more chance of getting the job than you do.
❑ c) You get a good night’s sleep, confident of your abilities and qualifications.

3. You arrive late for a conference, and realize that the entrance is right in front of the audience.

❑ a) You walk right in.

❑ b) You wait in the hallway for another latecomer, and slip in behind.
❑ c) You wait for a break in the proceedings before entering.

4. During a group discussion, you’re asked to voice your opinion about a subject that is familiar to you:

❑ a) You feel uncomfortable because people are looking at you, but you are able to provide an acceptable explanation.
❑ b) You’re taken by surprise, and find yourself incapable of expressing yourself coherently.
❑ c) You provide a clear and concise explanation, without feeling in the least embarrassed.

5. At a meeting where the participants are asked to state their views:

❑ a) You never take the floor because you’re convinced that you have nothing important to say.
❑ b) You speak out whenever you have a suggestion.
❑ c) You take the floor, and joke a bit before stating your opinion in a clear and concise manner.

6. The opinions of your colleagues:

❑ a) Sometimes cause you to change your attitude in order to please them.
❑ b) Slide off you like water off a duck’s tail.
❑ c) Often prevent you from sleeping.

7. You’re waiting in line when a few people push in front of you:

❑ a) You automatically step back in front of them.
❑ b) You ask them firmly but politely not to push in line.
❑ c) You’re afraid they’ll get aggressive and don’t say anything.

8. You’re discussing a subject you don’t know much about with a group of specialists:

❑ a) You are very impressed, and feel somewhat inadequate.
❑ b) You avoid saying much because you’re not familiar with the subject, but you don’t feel inferior because you do have a lot of expertise in other fields.
❑ c) You admit your ignorance, and show a desire to learn more.

9. You find yourself with a group of people who are somewhat snobbish:

❑ a) You let them know that you’re nobody’s fool.
❑ b) You try and be as snobbish as they are.
❑ c) You’re very impressed, and don’t dare say anything for fear of appearing ridiculous.

10. Your boss turns around and blames you for doing exactly what he asked you to do:

❑ a) You start excusing yourself and feel guilty.
❑ b) You excuse yourself and explain that you had trouble understanding his orders correctly.
❑ c) You remind him of his orders, politely but firmly, 

11. You’re in the waiting room of a doctor who specializes in sexually transmitted diseases:

❑ a) You wonder what the other people must think of you.
❑ b) You behave as if you were in any other waiting room.
❑ c) You try to let the other patients know that you haven’t got that kind of problem.

12. Do you wear sunglasses:

❑ a) Never

❑ b) Sometimes
❑ c) Very often

13, When you have to make a speech or a presentation:

❑ a) You concentrate only on what you’re going to say, and neglect to listen to other people’s speeches.
❑ b) You half listen, but you’re distracted.
❑ c) You listen closely, and adapt your own speech to what has been said before.

14. You get the impression that other people:

❑ a) Treat you as an equal.
❑ b) Treat you with condescension.
❑ c) Make fun of you.

15. When someone compliments you:

❑ a) You feel uncomfortable, and mutter a few indistinct words in return.
❑ b) You transfer the credit to someone else, and quickly change the subject.
❑ c) You thank the person who complimented you.

16. When someone says something nasty about you:

❑ a) You are incapable of replying on the spot, and then spend the next two hours regretting that you didn’t come up with this or that retort.
❑ b) You feel rejected, misunderstood and disliked.
❑ c) You reply immediately.

17. Do you think that others know how shy you are?

❑ a) Somewhat
❑ b) Perfectly

❑ c) Not at all

18. When someone you don’t know raises their voice nearby:

❑ a) You immediately feel guilty.
❑ b) You think that the person needs to learn more self control.
❑ c) You laugh about it because whatever the cause is, it doesn’t concern you.

19. You’re on vacation, and someone invites you to join their group for dinner:

❑ a) You refuse because you don’t know the people, and end up eating alone.
❑ b) You refuse at first, but then feel obligated to accept when the person insists.
❑ c) You accept or decline, according to how your mood, with out feeling in the least disturbed.

20. Your shyness:

❑ a) Prevents you from saying what you think.
❑ b) Makes you say things that you really don’t think.
❑ c) Does not prevent you from expressing yourself.

See the results tomorrow..

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Wednesday, May 21, 2014


What is Shyness?

Shyness; No one in world is there who has not been affected by shyness at some or the other point in their life. Research results show that in total of shyness victims men are in greater in number than women. A shy person is an introvert and keeps himself reserve from others. This means that he prefers to stay at home and avoid joining the society because he has a feeling of insecurity.

What is the cause of shyness?  

Shyness can be a result of past happenings in the life of a person. Like For Example: If a person in childhood is rejected and criticized by their family members or their classmates they may carry these experiences in the later part of their life. And as result they lose their confidence in responding to any new tasks and feel shy.

For few people, shyness is an inherited factor. This means that by birth they have this shyness in their minds which is the result of chemical imbalance in the brain. Research findings state that there is switching center in the brain which results in constant fear due to chemical imbalance.
Any type of shyness can be overcome by increasing level of confidence. A person who is confident in himself and takes up every job confidently is never shy. Thus it can be said that shyness and confidence have an inverse relationship between them.

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Tuesday, May 29, 2012

The Challenge to Lead

by Chris Widener
The topic of leadership has been and continues to be one of the most vital topics in human history. From ancient civilizations to modern day multi-national corporations, men and women of passion, fervor and zeal have sought to discover the secrets of moving others beyond the gray of their mundane reality to the rich array of colors that embody the palate of the extraordinary life.

Every organization or collection of people, from large to small, requires ardent and skilled leaders. It has been said that everything rises and falls on leadership, and it is true. Every group - families, cities, churches, associations and yes, even nations - fulfills its purposes and potential based on the leadership it is shown.

As leaders we are given the charge, responsibility, and the privilege to see grand visions, to dream lofty dreams, to forge new ground, and to challenge and encourage those who would follow our leadership to ascend the heights with us. We beckon them to come. We implore them. All for their own good. This is to lead them toward their possibilities.

Be assured that there will be a leader of every group. There will be those who influence others, even if you don’t. There may even be unscrupulous people who use their abilities to lead others astray. The quote “All it takes for evil to prevail is for the good man to do nothing,” remains true today, as it has through the annals of time. This is the compelling motive for you to rise up and lead the way for others.

Our families depend on it.

Our community groups depend on it.

Our nations depend on it.

People will follow you for two reasons: They follow you because of your character, for who you are. They also follow you for your skills, for what you can do. Make it your every effort to impart skillful and honorable leadership for them that would look to you for your wisdom, your guidance and your belief in the promise of the human spirit.

Someone will lead. Will it be you? If not you, then who will lead? If you will not lead now, then when?

Today, more than ever, you are needed. Your strong character is needed. Your finely honed skills are needed. I know you will rise to the challenge.

Lead boldly. Lead with faith. Lead others to the pinnacle of the human existence. This is the highest calling and the reward is of the utmost kind.

Chris Widener is an internationally recognized speaker, author and radio host. Chris is the author of five books and audio series as well as over 350 success articles. His Newest book co-authored with Jim Rohn, Twelve Pillars or The Angel Inside, or his newest CD series, The Secrets of Influence are all available for immediate download as ebook or MP3 files as part of our New Jim Rohn Music, EspaƱol and 25% off Everything! Sale, to order go to or call 800-929-0434.